"If its to be, its up to me"
A popular catch phrase that not only looks good on a coffee mug, but is also the attitude of many young professionals, especially millennials. Now, there's nothing wrong with having goals - in fact they're a good thing. Setting goals have brought me out of the biggest ruts in my life thus far, but there's a higher and more mature way to pursue the life you want.
Let go of the death grip on reality
Often times, we have a tight grip on how we want our reality to be within a certain span of time (hence the 1, 5 and 10 year plans that are ever so popular). The problem comes when this picture of what reality is 'supposed' to be like doesn't happen on our watch. Peter Sage, serial entrepreneur, defines 'stress' as when the external world doesn't match our internal expectations.
Go with the flow
Have you ever been in a casual conversation and a new business deal/partnership came out of it without an initial intention of it happening? Or fell in love just when you 'weren't looking for anything'? This is popularly referred to as being in 'flow'. Being in 'flow' is a conscious way to pursue whatever it is you want in life. Know what you want, pursue your passion, but don't try to have a death grip on a particular outcome, happening in a particular way, in a certain amount of time.
You'll find the right opportunities and people flowing your way effortlessly if you have the right intention and live in the present.